I'd say that throughout time mother-in-laws have gotten a pretty bad wrap for being mean and heartless and just not able to get along with the daughter-in-law. Now at times, this might be true, but overall I would say that your relationship with this woman can be wonderful, if you so desire. She is the mother to the man you are marrying and must've done something right to raise this man.
Now I can tell you from experience that this relationship can be amazing, but only if you take the time to get to know one another and respect each other. You may have different opinions on many matters, but you have something in common: you both love this man!
You will be his new wife, but remember that his mother loves him too.
Here are just a few ways to get to know your mother-in-law and start a lifelong friendship
1. Get to know her one-on-one if you can- take her to lunch and ask her about herself and about the man you both share in common (her son). Get her to tell you some experiences about him and things that you can relate to with your own parents.
2. Show appreciation for her- You may not see eye to eye on everything, but let her know that you care about her and appreciate what she does.
3. Share life events with her- After you marry her son, you will have many events happen in your life that you can share with her and your inlaws. Let them in so they can be apart of your life and your familie's life. (Life events may include: birth of your children, graduation from school, moving to a new location, getting a new job).
4. Lastly, tell her thank you often- Everyone wants to feel like they matter and that they are worthwhile. Showing appreciation can be the best thing you've ever done for yourself and for others.
Mother's Day is coming up soon (May 12, 2013). Here is a wonderful gift idea I found online that you could give your mother-in-law to be.
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